THE RUTH OLLY BLOG (Lifestyle, Health and Relationship)

That popular saying, "I wanna be like you when I grow up"...  The "avoidable" headache of man begins when they start to compare themselves with other people.  Hoping they can achieve what their friend or colleague achieved without having to go through the sacrifices required in attaining those successes.  Some with a hint of jealousy, wishing they can be the one in that neighbour's shoes. Of course, enjoying the good times, not the bad.  They see their crush or ex getting married to a beautiful woman and begin to say something like "I'm sure I'm more beautiful than she is" or "I can bet that I'm better in bed than she is". But deep inside, they only feel bad because they're not the beautiful lady in the wedding gown next to the man.  And so, life goes on and on with one person at a rung of a ladder wishing they were at the upper rung where life seems to be better, at least that's what they assume from their standing point

When it comes to Love, Relationship and Marriage, I have seen men fall in love with women who are physically disabled. A woman falling in love with a quadriplegic man.  A man proposing to deaf beautiful lady.  A successful man bearing his heart to a lady with scars from partial thickness burns on the face and body  All with physical disabilities. And I wondered how these things came to be.  I mean, we all have our dreams and desires; tall, dark and handsome kinda dreams😄 After some meditations on this, I remembered the definition of health by World Health Organization.  "Health is the complete state of physical, mental and social well-being of an individual and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity".  I began to realize that marriage between two perfect, non-physically disabled, individuals doesn't completely rule out the presence of scars that go beyond physical.  I started to see individuals who despite lacking physical scars bear with them emotional ones. Ind