I'M GETTING MARRIED: THE SCARS

When it comes to Love, Relationship and Marriage, I have seen men fall in love with women who are physically disabled.

• A woman falling in love with a quadriplegic man. 
• A man proposing to deaf beautiful lady. 
• A successful man bearing his heart to a lady with scars from partial thickness burns on the face and body 

All with physical disabilities. And I wondered how these things came to be. I mean, we all have our dreams and desires; tall, dark and handsome kinda dreams😄

After some meditations on this, I remembered the definition of health by World Health Organization. 

"Health is the complete state of physical, mental and social well-being of an individual and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity". 

I began to realize that marriage between two perfect, non-physically disabled, individuals doesn't completely rule out the presence of scars that go beyond physical. 

I started to see individuals who despite lacking physical scars bear with them emotional ones. Individuals dealing with low self-esteem, personality disorders, anxiety problems etc. Some scars related to violent upbringing, childhood abuses including psychological and sexual ones. 

That you are in a relationship with a physically perfect individual doesn't mean they're psychologically perfect.

Then I realized those who carry these around mostly carry with them marriage-disruptive tendencies especially if they do not deal with the burdens and pains related to those scars. 

We can rightly say that every individual carries one scar or the other whether physical, psychological, emotional or even spiritual. A lot of people are wounded but just not physically.

When you plan to get married to that man or lady, consider what scars they bear, help them heal completely, talk about it, pray about it together, no one should shy away from this. 

And if you're one with burdens, wounds and pains related to a scar in your past whether physical, psychological, emotional or spiritual. Own them and deal with them. They're part of you, but it shouldn't determine who you are, or what your future should be. 

Let it be your past while helping you have a better future. Let it feed your purpose positively. You're healed completely when you do not feel any pain or anger whenever you remember your experiences.

Like I recently quoted "Own your scars, it's not your fall, it's your rising - Ololade Ruth (2020).😊

Rise from your ashes and move on!

Yours always,

Ololade Ruth Oluwatumininu.

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