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Check it!

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While growing up, a lot of health-related misinformation kept flying around. I'll never forget one particular experience I had. Occasionally, as a child, I had an inflammation on my lower eyelids; most of the time, I didn't need to do anything because it recedes after a few days. However, I was always concerned about aesthetics, so I asked my friends what they thought I could do, and one of them suggested rubbing potash on my eyelids.  So, as naive as I was at the time, I returned home, carried Mama Ruth's potash, and rubbed it on my eyes. For the next 10 minutes, I found myself begging God not to allow me to go blind and promising that I won't try it again. I must have washed my face with 100 gallons of water in the process😂. When I was finally able to open my eyes, I promised myself that I would thoroughly vet any advice or opinion given to me before accepting it. Yes, we will receive myriads of suggestions, not only about health but also about other aspects of our l

Marriage and friends

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Give them space!  This is what our instinct tells us when our 'besties' get married Are we wrong for doing that?  Of course, the newlywed couple needs space to kick-start their marriage and find a balance in their life, and it is important for friends to respect this privacy. However, the mistake the married folks make especially after marriage is believing that they do not need  friends.  "Marry your friend", they say. So, if I married my best friend, do I still need other friends in my life?  My response to this would be a question for you to consider;  Have you had only one friend in your entire life?   If not, do all your previous pals share same viewpoints, mindsets or have they played a similar role in your life?  If you answered no, I hope you are starting to see why you need a friend other than your spouse.  Friends are unique in their ways and play a distinct role in our lives The truth is that your spouse will not always have all of the answers you need; God

Encounter vs Ignorance

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  Hello reader, how have you been? How is preparation for the last half of the year?  I'm back again with something slightly different. You know I'll always have a story to share to back my content. So in my teenage years, I was in my room one day when I noticed a strange language coming to my heart, as one conversing within my heart, I was almost slapping myself wondering what nonsense was coming to my heart, I even bound the devil 😂  Little did I know, that I had received the Holy Spirit and the evidence of speaking in tongues was trying to manifest.  Years later, I started seeking the ability to speak in tongues. I went for meetings where they called out those that want to receive the Holy Spirit with the evidence of tongues to be prayed for but was there watching others speak while nothing came from me, and when the ministers became tired of those of us who are not speaking, especially where time was running out, they'll ask us to go back to our seat.  I was very sad,

In the Beginning

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  I'm that kind of girl who writes a lot of "epistles" on her status, especially for birthday wishes, thanksgiving and all that.  It occurred to me that I had a lot to offer through writing and not just any writing but by sharing my experiences in a way others can relate with and learn from.  During the COVID-19 break, I messaged my colleague; Olabode Ifeoluwa, who had started writing on medium platform, on how I can start writing there as well, of which she put me through the process.  I wrote about 3 posts with my free trial after which I noticed a limitation especially for my readers; most of them were unable to read my posts due to the need for subscription. Then it occurred to me to create a blog instead, and then it all started.  THE RUTHOLLY BLOG WAS CREATED.  And today it is a year old.  Help came from different angles.  A big thank you to Archimedes, who messaged me about my blog and from our discussion realized I'll need a logo and then provided me one.  I s

The Cheerleaders

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What will you do if there is no one to cheer you on?  When there is no cheerleader for your team, no spectators to clap and shout your name, will you still play effectively? That is one question I want to ask football players when I get the chance😄 Is your motivation extrinsic or intrinsic? Because although extrinsic motivation goes a long way, the most important motivation for you is you. Growing up, I heard a lot of my classmates in primary and secondary school talk about how their parents check their books and monitor them as they do their assignment, I was like, really?  no one tells me to go do my assignment or check my books.  I'm my own boss mehn (lemme feel myself small😂) because my parents, mom especially, didn't have to push me to do assignments or read my books. Even when she wants to send me on some non-urgent errands sometimes, I tell her to please allow me complete my assignments and she gives me time (as per the understanding mother that she is😄). So the truth

GIVE OR TAKE?

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 Have you given something to the point of shedding tears.  There was a day I was dropping my offering in church and I was crying, people thought I was being moved by the ministration, na serious pain I dey feel, you would ask why?  Well, besides the transport fare to get back home, I had no money on me, especially for food.  Meanwhile they tell us not to give with the mindset of getting it back from God, but, my God! I just be like God, if you no want make I die of hunger, I have to get blessed by someone in return o 😄 I can't even remember what happened after, but I definitely did not starve😉  Anyway, let me share another moment with you. Has God ever told you to give someone something of which you barely have enough, yet they have in surplus? Kai, or do you have this constraint on you such that you even find it difficult to receive from people because all you're used to is to give even when you barely have.  Only those kind of people will understand this passage well. I duf

TIME UP!

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In the spirit of my induction into nursing profession, I decided to share one particular experience I would never forget, perhaps there's something to learn from it.  It was my first test as a fresh undergraduate of nursing science in the University of Ibadan. The anatomy test, embryology in particular, was to last for 15 minutes, 3 questions. It was an essay, so believe me when I say 5 minutes was far from being enough to attempt one question. 5 minutes is probably not enough to think and organize your thoughts actually not to talk of writing it down. Anyway, I had read and prepared well, when the questions were given, mehn, I had a lot to write down even drawings to back my answers since in anatomy, your drawings earn you more marks.  The examiner said we should start, I had no wrist watch to manage my time with, yet I had this enormous ideas to write down but limited time. I had just finished answering the 2nd question in the 2nd answer sheet when I heard "time up" We