THE RUTH OLLY BLOG (Lifestyle, Health and Relationship)

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. As we go through various developmental milestones from childhood to adulthood, we meet and move with various people we call friends .  We make some in school, in the neighborhood, in church/mosque, at our workplace or even on social media.  A lot of things attract friends to each other, ranging from similar  beliefs and values ,  interests and activities, viewpoints, way of life, life experiences etc.  However, it is possible for a friendship relationship to enter a stationary or death phase when the individuals involved start to find a lot of difference in things they considered common to them before, or that attracted them to each other initially.  When such happens, it takes sincerity on each one's part to decide whether it's time for that relationship to come to an end or find a new set of object of attraction.  The stages of friendship includes: Stranger, Acquaintance, Casual Friend, Close Friend, an

Have you ever found yourself in a situation,  where you want to do things that are natural to who you are, but  the fear of being taken advantaged of, makes you take the alternate action? Your first mind wants to take a step but you get stopped in the track when  you consider 101 reasons why doing it will make you seem vulnerable to others. When growing up, I knew the birthday of every one around me by heart, I stay awake till 12 am when I wish them "happy birthday" before I sleep, until... Therefore, you accustom yourself to that person that is supposedly less vulnerable But before you know it, a change gradually occurs You can hardly recognize who you are anymore. People you wanted to protect yourself from  will be the one to ask you... Who are you? What have you become? This isn't who I knew you to be! ...that birthday of mine when all my close pals actually forgot my birthday, including my family members😞. I was disappointed, I began to change, not attempting to reme

Have you seen movies where a character feels threatened by a life situation and decides a road trip will help clear his/her head in getting a solution to the problem at hand?   I came to realize that for me, a major place where I get such solitude that incites my meditation is the bathroom. Yeah, you read that right. As the water touches my body, it's more like it's washing away the cloudiness of my mind😄, and then I can think clearly.  gradyreese / Getty Images I wondered why this was so, especially the day I realized most of my ideas were conceived while in the bathroom. But I realized that the environment created a seclusion where I could meditate conveniently and get a lot of ideas to run with little or no distraction.  Besides the bathroom of course, I was soon able to discover other "wheres" that incites my meditation, creative thinking and reasoning.  Travelguide.net Another of such is "while traveling", I get a lot of inspiration on the road as I fe

  "Look at so-so family, their children are this and that, why are my own children like this?"   A typical Nigerian child might have had occurrences where their mother or father would say that to them. There's a dynamic with each family which shouldn't be disrupted if the family is going to enjoy maximum family health possible.  That dynamic is a unique pattern by which the family members relate, communicate, love and support each other, and it distinguishes that family from another. It also determines how the family relates with the outside world. This distinguishing factor is mostly common to all members of the family. Say for example, a family is known for a great sense of humor among the members. Another for an argumentative ability that is second to none (you'll see children of such family doing when in debates). Another could have something to do with musical talents among the members and another could be made up of bookworms. A family under duress when rest

I saw an episode of an American TV series, blindspot, Reade attempted kissing his co-worker and friend, but Zapata told him, "we're just friends". You know, I was as shocked as Reade, because even as a viewer, I almost thought Zapata was as interested in a more intimate relationship as Reade.  I believe I have people like me here who find it easier to connect with the opposite sex, especially on the basis of friendship. It's cool to have a male or female friend, but unfortunately, many of these kind of friendship relationship cause a lot of problems later which could have been averted. This does not necessarily mean you should avoid friendship with the opposite sex. I mean, how many do you want to run from when it comes naturally? lol. But that you avoid the emotional stress and trauma that comes with long time friendship with an opposite sex. Some of which may include unwanted advances, unwanted sexual feelings or even sexual harassment o

I don’t wanna talk, I don’t feel like talking, Simbi told herself. As she looked at her gramps who obviously wanted her to say something to ease the tension her silence was building. As she looked at the recent chat from her best friend who says  "we're drifting apart these days, what's up?" As she looked into the face of her husband who says,  “what’s happening to us?” As she looked at the series of unread chats on whatsapp awaiting her response. She tried to bring herself to respond, opening her mouth, nothing came out, staring at her fingers which couldn't bring itself to type a word. What’s wrong with me? Is it the hormones? Is it a mood-thing?  She asks herself. Her world is crashing, she's loosing friends faster than she can keep them, just because she doesn't feel like talking. She desperately seeks a fast solution. She remembers what the Holy book says about the spirit being willing but the flesh being weak. Of course, when

When u play a "this or that" game, where you need to choose one out of two weighted options. One is expected to weigh much more than the other, which should therefore, be your answer in that category. But let's say you are faced with a reality, a pressing situation, a life-demanding circumstance, where you have to decide whether it's this or that. Especially in areas of life such as career, relationships, marriage, academics, job hunting amongst others. Both options weighted, weighs equally, one wrong decision costs you a big loss. A lot of questions fill the heart, one specifically rings louder, THIS OR THAT? What should you do? 1) Still the heart Let there be peace, let the noise in your heart be stilled. Sometimes your heart amplifies your dilemma, creating noise that disrupts an effective decision making process. 2) Find the 0.1 You have a 50/50 options at hand. But consider having 50.1/49.9 options. You have an answer, don't you? All you need