THE RUTH OLLY BLOG (Lifestyle, Health and Relationship)

That popular saying, "I wanna be like you when I grow up"...  The "avoidable" headache of man begins when they start to compare themselves with other people.  Hoping they can achieve what their friend or colleague achieved without having to go through the sacrifices required in attaining those successes.  Some with a hint of jealousy, wishing they can be the one in that neighbour's shoes. Of course, enjoying the good times, not the bad.  They see their crush or ex getting married to a beautiful woman and begin to say something like "I'm sure I'm more beautiful than she is" or "I can bet that I'm better in bed than she is". But deep inside, they only feel bad because they're not the beautiful lady in the wedding gown next to the man.  And so, life goes on and on with one person at a rung of a ladder wishing they were at the upper rung where life seems to be better, at least that's what they assume from their standing point

When it comes to Love, Relationship and Marriage, I have seen men fall in love with women who are physically disabled. A woman falling in love with a quadriplegic man.  A man proposing to deaf beautiful lady.  A successful man bearing his heart to a lady with scars from partial thickness burns on the face and body  All with physical disabilities. And I wondered how these things came to be.  I mean, we all have our dreams and desires; tall, dark and handsome kinda dreams😄 After some meditations on this, I remembered the definition of health by World Health Organization.  "Health is the complete state of physical, mental and social well-being of an individual and not merely the absence of disease or infirmity".  I began to realize that marriage between two perfect, non-physically disabled, individuals doesn't completely rule out the presence of scars that go beyond physical.  I started to see individuals who despite lacking physical scars bear with them emotional ones. Ind

Friends come and friends go, but a true friend sticks by you like family. As we go through various developmental milestones from childhood to adulthood, we meet and move with various people we call friends .  We make some in school, in the neighborhood, in church/mosque, at our workplace or even on social media.  A lot of things attract friends to each other, ranging from similar  beliefs and values ,  interests and activities, viewpoints, way of life, life experiences etc.  However, it is possible for a friendship relationship to enter a stationary or death phase when the individuals involved start to find a lot of difference in things they considered common to them before, or that attracted them to each other initially.  When such happens, it takes sincerity on each one's part to decide whether it's time for that relationship to come to an end or find a new set of object of attraction.  The stages of friendship includes: Stranger, Acquaintance, Casual Friend, Close Friend, an

Have you ever found yourself in a situation,  where you want to do things that are natural to who you are, but  the fear of being taken advantaged of, makes you take the alternate action? Your first mind wants to take a step but you get stopped in the track when  you consider 101 reasons why doing it will make you seem vulnerable to others. When growing up, I knew the birthday of every one around me by heart, I stay awake till 12 am when I wish them "happy birthday" before I sleep, until... Therefore, you accustom yourself to that person that is supposedly less vulnerable But before you know it, a change gradually occurs You can hardly recognize who you are anymore. People you wanted to protect yourself from  will be the one to ask you... Who are you? What have you become? This isn't who I knew you to be! ...that birthday of mine when all my close pals actually forgot my birthday, including my family members😞. I was disappointed, I began to change, not attempting to reme

Have you seen movies where a character feels threatened by a life situation and decides a road trip will help clear his/her head in getting a solution to the problem at hand?   I came to realize that for me, a major place where I get such solitude that incites my meditation is the bathroom. Yeah, you read that right. As the water touches my body, it's more like it's washing away the cloudiness of my mind😄, and then I can think clearly.  gradyreese / Getty Images I wondered why this was so, especially the day I realized most of my ideas were conceived while in the bathroom. But I realized that the environment created a seclusion where I could meditate conveniently and get a lot of ideas to run with little or no distraction.  Besides the bathroom of course, I was soon able to discover other "wheres" that incites my meditation, creative thinking and reasoning.  Travelguide.net Another of such is "while traveling", I get a lot of inspiration on the road as I fe

  "Look at so-so family, their children are this and that, why are my own children like this?"   A typical Nigerian child might have had occurrences where their mother or father would say that to them. There's a dynamic with each family which shouldn't be disrupted if the family is going to enjoy maximum family health possible.  That dynamic is a unique pattern by which the family members relate, communicate, love and support each other, and it distinguishes that family from another. It also determines how the family relates with the outside world. This distinguishing factor is mostly common to all members of the family. Say for example, a family is known for a great sense of humor among the members. Another for an argumentative ability that is second to none (you'll see children of such family doing when in debates). Another could have something to do with musical talents among the members and another could be made up of bookworms. A family under duress when rest

I saw an episode of an American TV series, blindspot, Reade attempted kissing his co-worker and friend, but Zapata told him, "we're just friends". You know, I was as shocked as Reade, because even as a viewer, I almost thought Zapata was as interested in a more intimate relationship as Reade.  I believe I have people like me here who find it easier to connect with the opposite sex, especially on the basis of friendship. It's cool to have a male or female friend, but unfortunately, many of these kind of friendship relationship cause a lot of problems later which could have been averted. This does not necessarily mean you should avoid friendship with the opposite sex. I mean, how many do you want to run from when it comes naturally? lol. But that you avoid the emotional stress and trauma that comes with long time friendship with an opposite sex. Some of which may include unwanted advances, unwanted sexual feelings or even sexual harassment o